10 Common Sense Guides to Using Social Media

Social media is fast becoming one of the most popular form of communication. The following are sensible and common sense suggestions to make your online presence as trouble free as possible.

1. Ensure that whatever you send makes sense and cannot be misconstrued. Remember, communication involves transmitting meaning.

2. Avoid sending or forwarding messages with racist, sexist or any other offensive content or language.

3. Furthermore, do not post, send or forward anything you may regret in the future. If you do not agree with a comment on social media, ignore it, rather than posting abusive words against the writer. The watchword is ‘think first’ before posting any item or even sending an email.

4. It is important to note that almost everything posted online is permanent and can potentially be seen, copied or downloaded by 7 billion people. Therefore be careful with the information, pictures and images you post on social media or anywhere online.

5. Beware! Employers and potential employers may also check your online profile for information about you. Ensure none of these can embarrass you.

6. Avoid sending daily messages or videos to people. Daily messages, however motivational can be overwhelming for most people.  Even if you think your messages are exceptionally wonderful, remember you may be crowding peoples lives with too much advice and you may in fact become a nuisance.

7. Do not send or forward messages that require the receiver to type ‘amen’ or to copy others in order to receive a miracle. This is playing on peoples’ emotions, and it is clearly a form of bullying.

8. If you are starting a group, it is more appropriate to first send out an invitation. Include a small introduction giving the objectives of the group, and guidance on what can and can not be posted on the platform. In other words, give people the option to opt in or out of a group and avoid adding people’s contact into a group without prior notification and approval.

9. If you belong to a group, do not abuse the platform by posting any messages or information outside of the objectives of the group.

10. Remember that tone and perception matters! Because culture differs even within a country, a well meaning message may in fact be misconstrued and considered offensive by others, perhaps because of its tone. Check meaning and consider how your message may be perceived before you send it.

We all benefit when we do things right.

4 Qualities that will make you easily Likeable

Have you ever wondered why some people are able to keep old friends and at the same time readily attract new ones. Why is it that some people can instantly hit it up with anyone they meet? Why, on the other hand, is it that certain people find it difficult to hold down relationships though they may be very good at what they do.

The simple fact is that being likeable is not the preserve of some special people. You too can become likeable if you work at it. If this is your aim, the following qualities will assist you in endearing yourself to people:

1. Sensitivity – Be sensitive to people around you. This includes sensitivity in what you say and do. The reason for this is because what you say has an effect on people long after you might have said it. So watch out! Don’t be frivolous with words. Be sensitive to people’s religion, culture, race, ethnicity, gender, disability and you will hardly offend.

In the same vein, the actions you take might have been long forgotten by you, yet the impact on the person at the receiving end could still be fresh many years after. Being sensitive about what you say and do builds trust and credibility for you. It also means that people can be themselves around you. All of these improve your standing before other people and by default your likeability.

2. Reliability – A reliable person is a trusted person, one whose behaviour or work tallies with what is expected. When your word is your bond, people instantly take to you. When you have a proven record of delivering on what you say, or do what you promise, it becomes easy for people to trust you. You will also be showing that you are dependable and no one will soon forget this quality. Reliability is also about consistency and professionalism in executing a task given to you. If for any reason you cannot meet a promised deadline, inform your client or person involved immediately rather than keeping them in the dark.

The attributes of meeting expectations, doing what you promise and consistency in carrying out tasks can only enhance your reputation and promote your likeability.

3. Showing genuine interest in people – Likeable people see everyone as important and they show this in the way they treat everyone they meet. They make people feel important when they talk to them, they look for the best in others and not for their faults. They also encourage people and have good listening skills.

It is no rocket science that people will gravitate more to someone that shows genuine interest in them than to those who care less. You will prefer someone who is patient with you than someone who uses conversations to boost their personal ego or make you look small. Likeable people understand all these and use every opportunity to bring people up even when they want to correct them. Rather than give in to cynical remarks or show off their intelligence and decisiveness, likeable people spin their actions and words positively, because they are genuinely interested in the growth and development of others.

4. Ability to handle difficult issues – The default position for many people is to hit the roof when they have been offended. Some people find it much easier to be angry and show it when situations don’t go their way. If this is you, it will be very difficult for people to like or be attracted to you.

To improve your likeability quotient, learn how to contain yourself and manage your own emotions. Avoid fighting all battles and reacting to every attack on your personality. People who handle difficult situations well are admired and respected. It is a quality you must develop if you want to become likeable.

We all benefit when we do things right.

Beyond the University Degree – Developing Skills for Life

For so many school pupils, the greatest challenge that presents itself is that of passing exams and getting into university. The ‘challenge’ of WAEC, GCE, NECO and JAMB is so real that everything else fades in the light of passing these examinations. Sadly, only a minority are able to wade through these treacherous waters to secure admission into a university. For these ones, the belief is that their future is set and all that needs to be done is to stay afloat for four to five years, pass all exams and come out with a reasonable class of degree.

However, in today’s world, nothing can be further from the truth. Anyone who still treasures such a belief is living in cloud cuckoo land. The reality of our world is that things have changed so greatly in the last 20 years and anyone who wants to survive must understand how the world now works. The value of a degree has certainly diminished for a variety of reasons. One is the unfortunate decline in standards of education; this has not been helped by the incessant strike actions by lecturers due to pay issues and conditions of work. There is also the issue of examination malpractices, a high level of leaked examination papers and impersonation. All these have contributed to fallen standards in education which has taken a toll on the employment market. It is a fact that education in Nigeria is largely academic and it appears that this trend will continue.

The sheer number of people who graduate from university each year in Nigeria and also in other countries has also increased employment competition. As the world has become a global village, anyone can apply to any job from anywhere in the world. This means that a Nigerian university graduate applying for work at an oil company in Lagos is in competition with other Nigerian graduates from Ghana or even from Canada. Frankly, the competition in Nigeria is keen enough with so many thousands of graduates from across the country going for the same few jobs.

This scenario is not peculiar to Nigeria, many other parts of the world including Europe and the Americas are also experiencing a global meltdown which has reduced the number of opportunities available. The reality is that not enough jobs is being created to go round making it imperative for anyone who wants to get a decent job to be multi-skilled. It is no longer enough to have a good degree, it is absolutely necessary to gain other skills directly or even indirectly relevant to your degree.

Basic life skills are extremely important too as they make a difference to what a person can offer. Today’s employers now extend their interests beyond well educated geeks who can only sit by a computer to intelligent programmers with good interpersonal skills who can also relate well to clients. Life skills are basic skills which are necessary to function in life. Often these are simple transferrable skills that can be employed in any sector once acquired.

Life skills are non-negotiable if a person intends to amount to anything in life and includes timekeeping, organising and planning, relating to people, speaking in public and being proactive. These skills can be used anywhere in almost any job and they enhance your college degree.

Interestingly, these skills can be learned without possessing a degree. You can even function with these skills exclusively in many jobs with or without a degree. An example would be if you have a job as an executive PA, there are hardly any specific skills which you need to learn at university to function in this role. There are however, many other skills like planning, organising and interpersonal skills which are crucial to this kind of job. Theses same skills can be enlisted in managing a building project. Assuming this PA is offered a job in a property development company as a project manager, the PA skills will simply be transferred to manage this project effectively.

In the above example, the new project manager will apply his timekeeping, planning and organising skills to ensure that the architects, engineers and artisans work to timescale with deliverables to show for it.

This same person can work in logistics – managing coca cola goods from production to distribution across the country.

The points below will further illustrate the objective of this discussion:

  • A degree is no longer sufficient to make headway in life.
  • With increased global competition for work, you need additional skills to give yourself an edge in life.
  • Everyone needs to complement their degree with basic life skills.
  • Employers are increasingly looking for people with these life skills and you will do yourself good by developing them.
  • It’s never too late to start developing yourself in this area. For example if you read widely, you will begin to develop your communication skills.
  • Start to be genuinely interested in people and you will develop interpersonal skills.

We all benefit when we do things right!