tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4667897635405066470.post2312507302908775493..comments2011-11-29T19:41:32.142+01:00Etiquette Bankhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12994692770958113190noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4667897635405066470.post-25728401634358872892011-03-10T04:40:12.794+01:002011-03-10T04:40:12.794+01:00Please is begging (May I Have something) is proper manors, Please is an old layover from the feudal system of Lords and peasants. Proper etiquette is simply to ask in a polite grammatically correct mannerMarvinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15728377944947199134noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4667897635405066470.post-52448915945494544752009-06-07T00:54:21.146+01:002009-06-07T00:54:21.146+01:00A very good article and advice. On my last visit to Nigeria my host family had household help: cooks, nanny, drivers, and I was astonished and embarassed and felt badly as the wife would start yelling at the help starting as early as 6 a.m. with the yelled command to &quot;WA!&quot; There was never any gratitude or politeness. What I witnessed was basically slavery with verbal abuse. I am hoping on my second trip that these memories will be replaced by a kinder and gentler manner in the compound of my other associates. I was bewildered for a good two months trying to discover what was the yoruban word for &quot;please&quot; since I never heard it spoken. But commands were easy to decipher...Unfortunate, and I know that this bad behaviour does not represent all of the good people of Nigeria. I found Nigerians in general to be very warm and hospitable and I am looking forward to my next stay.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4667897635405066470.post-48452256655808360842009-04-22T14:34:00.000+01:002009-04-22T14:34:00.000+01:00Awesome article ! I think the dialogue needs to continue . Adedapo said it in his closing statement " Nigeria will regain her former glory and we as individuals will be better off in every way."<br /><br />Have you ever noticed the difference in an individual once you Thank them ? <br /><br />How often do we get home at the end the day and send thank you texts messages to those who helped us in one way or the other during the day ? <br /><br />How many times do we pick up Thank You cards to send to people who have at one time or the other helped us . ?<br /><br />How many times do we remember to say please and Thank you to our kids (no matter how young), when they assist us ? <br /><br />How many times do we wave in gratitude at the traffic warden on the road ? <br /><br />There is a huge shortage in the use of these two words , almost non - existent , we christians need to stand up and be counted . Whats more important is we need to mean it , we need to look into the eyes of whom we are thanking , on aa airplane , thank the stewardess by name , in a restaurant, thank the <br />Waiter/ess by name. What ever we ask for Please must proceed , even the broken english version - I beg - will do ! <br /><br />EB , Please let us delve further into this dialogue , Gratitude is part of the way to peace and Love i our world. <br /><br />Keep the flag flying !<br /><br />WeyWeyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05318075849370302236noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4667897635405066470.post-74025970849287104882009-04-22T11:22:00.000+01:002009-04-22T11:22:00.000+01:00Hello,<br /><br />Indeed, the subject matter cannot be over-emphasised. The magical words walked out of our culture sometimes ago, most people are living in denial, are self-centred with care free attitudes. In a society as ours, we are breeding children of no value of person’s or thing<br /> <br />SeyiSeyihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08775596510285307217noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4667897635405066470.post-92166463820288757042009-04-22T09:12:00.000+01:002009-04-22T09:12:00.000+01:00Hi Tinuke,<br /><br />Once again,thank you for a very good write up. It is interesting that your article has come about a day after I read an article in one of the Nigerian newspapers which articulated that Nigeria should 'rewind' to the time when things worked in the country- between 1960 -1967. What your article is pointing out is that we as a people, need to 'rewind' to 'first principles'. We need to 'unlearn' the unwholesome things and habits that we have embraced over the years. When I was growing up, we had to treat all the domestic help and drivers with utmost respect - Please and Thank you were the order of the day.My parents also accorded them these courtesies. Fast forward to these days where the employers of such helpers ( the parents, who are supposedly wealthy and enlightened ), treat the helpers with disdain and deal with them as if they are mere inconveniences. Charity begins at home!!!. If the parents don't show the good examples, the children are doomed and by extrapolation, the nation.It amazes me that as a people, we Nigerians are so discourteous yet, we take offence at the slightest of things. It appears that people live under the illusion that the more unpleasant they are to others, the more they will be feared and, the quicker their wishes will be complied with. It need not be so and I think that as a nation, if we sort out the little things ( basic courtesies, love for one another, good time keeping, etc), the bigger things will take care of themselves - Nigeria will regain her former glory and we as individuals will be better off in every way.Adedapohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17970911851803375879noreply@blogger.com